tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15444348.post6109556508253980714..comments2008-05-09T09:35:02.538+01:00Comments on Undone: Dilemma and demandSephahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12915108901825575244noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15444348.post-9668304336292697602008-04-30T14:39:00.000+01:002008-04-30T14:39:00.000+01:00I think there's a difference between hiding someth...I think there's a difference between hiding something because you're ashamed - and being guarded about something, simply because people really won't benefit by knowing. From what I've read here, you're not hiding. I have no idea how much I share about myself on the internet. On my two blogs, not that much. On the chat forum I'm on, even less. On Yahoo - a fair amount in the past; less now. If Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15444348.post-61569361973768782392008-04-29T09:11:00.000+01:002008-04-29T09:11:00.000+01:00i've replied via email as it got very, very rambli...i've replied via email as it got very, very rambling (let me know if you didn't get it, i'd hate to think it got lost in the ether) - really interesting topic and discussion, thanks for bringing it up. xSarah M Dillonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01583119266241381779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15444348.post-40679585930336357272008-04-28T02:19:00.000+01:002008-04-28T02:19:00.000+01:00I recently came across your blog and I just want t...I recently came across your blog and I just want to tell you how much I enjoy your writing. It comes across as very thoughtful and honest. Thank you for taking the time and effort to share your experiences. As for the dilemma, I agree with the other comments left here and my own thoughts are that your first name should be more than adequate for them. Your story is your story, regardless of Mary Annehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15941689051872189415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15444348.post-77824998807214513312008-04-28T00:49:00.000+01:002008-04-28T00:49:00.000+01:00If the magazine has your real information I don't ...If the magazine has your real information I don't know why you have to tell the world your personal information if you would prefer to keep it anonymous.So if it's not important to you, do what feels right. Your stomach feeling is usually the right thing to go by..Dorothy from grammologyall your gramwww.grammology.comDorothyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03181570769074774554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15444348.post-53014547417753185852008-04-26T16:35:00.000+01:002008-04-26T16:35:00.000+01:00Hi Sepha,I think the policy is misguided.I have ne...Hi Sepha,I think the policy is misguided.I have never blogged anonymously. I use my real first name in my blog and if you click on my email, you can find out my last name, too. That was the right choice for me. I am very comfortable with the kind of openness I have chosen for my blog but I do think carefully before I write something about others in my life (friends and family are always lauriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14533311678025418958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15444348.post-65638731183294536772008-04-26T13:44:00.000+01:002008-04-26T13:44:00.000+01:00I do agree with you that some things are better le...I do agree with you that some things are better left private. Although I understand why some publications would pride themselves on being able to identify their sources, for example to lend credibility to the reporting, this is surely not one of those cases. A first name should suffice. A year or so ago I was approached to be interviewed regarding my "survivorship" and when I asked the writer Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15444348.post-48389547327220484112008-04-25T23:02:00.000+01:002008-04-25T23:02:00.000+01:00Hmm. It's not easy, is it?For what it's worth, I'd...Hmm. It's not easy, is it?For what it's worth, I'd be exactly the same as you: they might use my username, they might use my first name (my 'handle' being a variant spelling on my first name, after all), but I wouldn't want my *full* name. And it's not really for identity either; it's because on the internet, I see Sepha, I know it's you (okay, I've only seen you here with that username, but you Ciorstaidhhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15523592566640630453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15444348.post-82787567811854477072008-04-25T10:59:00.000+01:002008-04-25T10:59:00.000+01:00I just did a quick search and discovered that my g...I just did a quick search and discovered that my gmail account is linked and *showing* against my livejournal profile. Hadn't realised that it showed. So I hid it. And I think there's my answer. I do have a tendency to share too much on my blog: I also know that many of my friends IRL read it, and they are IRL friends 'cos I met them on the internet in the first place. But there are various Sweet Camden Lasshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01983732031040847147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15444348.post-56610090925105850692008-04-25T05:28:00.000+01:002008-04-25T05:28:00.000+01:00I think they are wrong, wronggity wrong to assume ...I think they are wrong, wronggity wrong to assume that using a pseudonym = cancer is something that is shameful and to be kept hidden.Sepha like you I use a pseudonym on the web for many reasons. If they are not prepared to publish under your pseudonym I have two thoughts for you.1. Do they already know your real name? If not, use your real first name and a fake surname. How will they know the Snoskredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12670406702782244306noreply@blogger.com